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Are majority of long married couples not happy in their relationships? This is the question that has being bugging me for a while. As a consultant of Feng Shui, I encounter several couples with less than perfect marriages. My clients will quite often ask me for some sort of "secret" remedy that will magically fix what is wrong with their marriage. Asking around, I polled a few of my married friends and got their opinion on the matter. These couples, which are over 50 years old, were chosen because of their age and the fact that they have been married for a long time Their answer shocked me. Based on their own observations and those of their friends, they are of the opinion that 90% of married people are unhappy in their marriages, for one reason or another. Sadly, they don't have fairy tale happy endings. Does a cure exist? It may be possible. In olden Chinese societies arranged marriages are commonplace. The Ba Zi of the intended couple are checked for compatibility, before they are allowed to tie the knot. Will this succeed every time? It increases the chance but it does not work all the time. Yet after years of observation, they discovered that if you add it to other conditions, you can improve the odds of having a joyful and long-lasting marriage. While this insight is for all, it is most important for those with a background of failed marriages or relationships, to remember this. Some of the applicable conditions are as follows. In the old days, the husband must always be older than the wife. This is a ritual. It is unbreakable and should not be tried to be broken. Yet the people of antiquity also observed that for people with failed marriages or relationships, going against the tradition - i.e. having an older wife – can strangely be the answer. The ancient Chinese considered wives "older" than their husbands, even if only a day. However to get superior results, a bigger age difference is preferred. The other option for a more successful relationship is for the husband to be much older than the wife. To the ancient Chinese, much older means at least 8 years apart. Ten to fifteen years older, in practice, is not only accepted, but is desired. It would also increase the chances if there is a big disparity in the social and economic standard between the husband and the wife. Just for example the husband is a CEO of a big corporation and has been highly educated,while the wife does not near as much education and comes from a family that is poor. Can it be the other way around? This is unlikely, because historically, the job of primary provider has belonged to the husband. However, why can't this be true when, in our modern era, many wives' salaries are greater than their husbands'? The second condition applies to ladies only - especially the elderly. If she cannot be a successful first wife, it does not mean that she cannot be successful being the second or third one. So, being the other women can be an option that leads to success! I feel doubtful about being the other guy, however! What if none of the above works? The final option is to have a spouse that is of a different race or from a different culture. For instance, somebody from China and someone from India, or perhaps two Chinese who are from different parts of the country. Examples of one China brought up and United States one can be seen. We have been the beneficiaries of our forefathers' wisdom. So, and especially, if you are relationship challenged, give it a try. There is nothing to lose!
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